How Much Is Enough?
When do you say that enough is enough? Is it when you are overwhelmed? Or is it based on your notion of what is too much?
It’s hard to tell when things are already beyond something unless you have a clear understanding of what is necessary and unnecessary. However, what is necessary for one may not be necessary for another.
For example, too much milk for adult may not be enough for an infant, but an amount of food that is too much for the sick may not be enough for the healthy ones.
Our notion of limit is not only related to what we consume. It is also true in the way we expect things to be.
Our expectation of what ought to happen in the future tends to become our comfort zone in the present. And our comfort zone becomes a necessity.
Take for instance our preference for cleanliness. When something is clean, there must no longer be another state such as “cleaner” or “more clean,” yet some people don’t seem to be satisfied with how clean something has been cleaned.
Between necessity and perfection, nothing is enough. Now, you must be prudent in determining whether what is enough for you is what is necessary or what is perfect.
The problem with perfection is that it can be subjective. It means that what is perfect for you may not be perfect for others. Therefore, there must be a standard of perfection that we all must understand and agree.
Unfortunately, perfection is always above our normal. We tend to want to become what is not normal for us. We always wish to become what we are not no matter how closer we get to our previous wish.
In other words, it is impossible for us all to become what we will never be; for there is no such a thing as too perfect, hence we don’t know what is too much when we chase perfection.
Knowing what is enough is not knowing what is perfect for us. Rather, it is being aware of what is necessary at a perfect moment
To say that something is enough means there is no need for anything that is unnecessary. It’s just funny to see some statements and quotes that say we should not settle for less or for what is only enough because it is said to espouse mediocrity.
Well…this is totally wrong.
Here is another thing. Yes, mediocrity has a bad connotation. It manifests weakness and lack of excellence. It means defeat and surrender.
This is true only for people who believe that we are in competition with anyone all the time. But does this philosophy will make everyone happy?
In every competition, there are winners, and there are losers. Only the winners deserve happiness. The losers? They are unhappy even if what they got is more than enough for them.
Besides, competition exists only in the mind. Overdoing it produces paranoia.
Happiness exists when we have enough. It dies when what is enough for us becomes insufficient. Troubles come when someone goes beyond the limit.
This is the reason why we have laws being legislated in order to establish moderation in our action.
Moderation is nothing but putting a boundary on a particular action that is too much to be reasonable. Otherwise, the world would become a vast arena of all sorts of competitions among people who want to win something that is too good to be true.
On the other hand, moderation is not an imposition of an absolute standard of what is right and wrong. Instead, it is the expression of prudence and wisdom between insufficiency and necessity, not between necessity and perfection.
If there is an element of perfection that we should pursue, it is the pursuit of a perfect moment to know whether or not something is already enough.
In areas of love and relationship, false expectation pushes everyone to assume such expectation as the measurement of either necessity or perfection. As a result, what love does is no longer enough. We then become accustomed with expecting from what love can do further.
If you are broken-hearted, you might think that the love you received is not enough compared with what you expected. Therefore, it is your expectation that tells you what is enough love for you instead of what love would tell you what is truly enough for itself.
Now, how much is enough? It is our satisfaction, not our expectation, that should tell us so. Our satisfaction must always be based on our appreciation and gratitude of every little thing we see, get, and become.
People who commit suicide find death to be enough for them. When you die, there will be nothing afterward. You wouldn’t have anything nor become anyone.
Therefore, what’s the point of saying that having a little thing or being a little one in life is not enough for the living while not having anything nor becoming anyone in death is just enough for the dead?
The answer is that those who have the tendency to commit suicide find death to be enough to eliminate all pains. However, most pains they wish to get rid of are mental pains and troubles of the minds such as worries and fears.
They forget that all such pains are not supposed to exist if they only have the right mindset to get rid of it. Hence, committing suicide is unnecessary and vain
There are pains in the mind that are tolerable. These are pains that do not produce bodily pains. Therefore, your reason can guide you to set a level of tolerance enough to avoid unnecessary action that may augment the pains in your mind.
But when pains are too great to bear especially if the troubles in your mind are fed by the pains in your body (like not any more eating for days for lack of money thereby worrying further more of not eating yet for another day), you can say that your tolerance is more than enough.
If that were the case, it would be enough justification for you to take an action that might generate a much greater pain today in order to produce a much greater pleasure in the long run that would eliminate such greater pain. What is important is you know when to say that enough is enough. Everything has a limit.
Consider yourself a hunter and your target, happiness. When chasing for something elusive, you wish to be as close to it as possible, but to be too close can make it escape. Therefore, maintain enough distance to strike. More than enough is too late.