How to Remove Your Fears and Worries
Fears and worries prevent us from being creative and productive. They suppress our full potential to grow and to mature in time.
When you are afraid of, or worried about, something, your judgment is determined by your desire to get rid of pains and troubles. As a result, all your actions become merely the product of your being risk-averse.
There is nothing wrong in being risk-averse at a certain degree provided that the threat is real.
Risk is part of our life. We can’t get rid of it.
We are not only put in one place at random but are also surrounded by chance circumstances.
We can’t get rid of risk. What we need is to manage it in order to reduce the eventual pain and to increase the greatest possible pleasure. This reality of infinite uncertainty should not trouble us. That's how nature works.
Instead, we must prepare our mind for future surprises so we can better construct an alternative response that can immediately address every potential problem that may come along the way. In other words, expect the worst and execute your best response.
This implies that we don’t have to manipulate our mind just for the purpose of not becoming troubled. We can’t fake the reality. Fears and worries are real, hence it is natural to worry about something that can really hurt.
However, there are fears that are baseless. Such fears are merely the creation of our mind or reactions to some invented stories like legends that have been passed onto us from one generation to another.
For instance, the fear of ghosts that is implanted into the minds of children produces a series of succeeding fears like the fear in the dark, the fear of a strange appearance, and the fear of loneliness.
Even the reason for knowing and doing what is good is driven by fears such as the fear of god and eternal damnation. You wouldn’t want to be grilled in hell for not doing good as much as you wouldn’t want to be reincarnated as a pig for not being perfect.
This means that doing what is good is synonymous to living in fear either in the fear of god or in the fear of invented justice.
The root of all such fears is the fear of death. We humans have been taught to become afraid of death so that our avoidance of it will lead us to the obedience to an abstract codes of conduct.
Our natural courage has been removed from us and is objectified into an abstract concept such as virtue.
Instead of being courageous for the sake of its usefulness, we have been taught to be courageous only for courage sake. Such virtue makes it more difficult for us to be truly courageous. Because of this, we become fearful and coward instead.
Courage is replaced with obedience, and obedience is established through fear.
Let’s take an analogy.
A tiger is naturally courageous. It survives and finds pleasure in eating flesh from huge preys with horns.
What would happen if a tiger thinks like a modern human being who is deluded with fears of demons and other supernatural creatures with horns? Would it survive if the only preys that are available for its consumption are creatures with horns?
Most probably, the tiger would die, not because of what such false creature could do to harm the tiger, but because of hunger by not eating such creature out of fear.
But interestingly, tigers are determined by their pursuit of pleasure. Although they can sense the threat of retaliation by their larger preys, they know exactly whether the risk is high or low. Their courage is useful for them to implement a planned attack. They take a risk and benefit from it.
In short, they are not courageous for courage sake but for the sake of pleasure.
We humans are not different from animals. Our feeling is what gives real value to the real world, hence it is just right to fear the fire because it is hot. When we feel it, we will fear it.
The problem is when we fear something that we can hardly sense. This is why it is more difficult to measure the risk of an abstract threat than of a real threat.
Dying is real, but death is abstract. Death is nothing to fear. In it, there is no feeling of pain since our sense organs will disintegrate into atoms along with our sensation when we die.
But what about dying?
Here is the truth.
The pains of dying are not different from the pains we feel when we get injured while playing some physical games such as boxing, basketball, football, baseball, and the like. But why is it that we are much more afraid of dying than of getting injured while in fact the likelihood of getting injured in a game is much higher than dying soon?
Nevertheless, I am not telling you that suicide is the option. It is true that death is nothing to fear, but death is nothing to desire, too.
Life is beautiful. Why should you kill it? The point is that life is short so you have to make the most out of it.
Instead of living in fear, spend your life in pursuing pleasure. This is possible if you remove the troubles in your mind with the help of philosophy and the study of nature. By knowing the truth of reality, you will get rid of superstition or false knowledge that generates unnecessary fears.
If death, which does not generate pleasure, is nothing to fear, then why should you fear life in which pleasure exists?
We know we will all die eventually, and we may never know when it will happen. But there is no point in being anxious about it. The point of living is to enjoy it.
Should you worry about losing a job? Not being loved? Rejection? Humiliation? And failure?
If all these can lead you to death, what’s in it that you should fear? Is it pain? This is for you to reflect on.
To remove your fears and worries, remove all your beliefs, opinions, and superstition. Clear your mindset so you can have a better sense of the reality. When you know how nature works in you, you will realize that some of your fears and worries are artificial. These are inventions to scare you to death.
Therefore, face your fears that are real and ignore those that are not. Do not fear death so you can remove your fear of any living threat. Only with such mindset can you become authentic and naturally courageous.